Venturing over 45
In a couple of weeks I reach the grand old age of 47. Am I bothered? nope, not really, I feel better about myself now than I did in my thirties. I am more accomplished and value different things, so the odd wrinkle doesn’t have me apoplectic any more.
I remember finding my first grey hair at the age of approximately 32 maybe 34 and being absolutely devastated, and quickly pulling it out. Now, I have so many if I pulled them out I’d have a bald spot. I also don’t care too much that they show. In fact I am planning my transition into white and fabulous, not just yet but give it maybe 10 more years and I plan to go a gorgeous silver white.
There are however a few things that you are not generally prepared for, as a woman that is, when venturing over the age of 40. Things that you and your friends are perhaps discovering together, unless you have older girl friends (and honest ones).
We all know we are going to get wrinkles, however many of us will spend inordinate amounts of money to ensure that it happens later rather than sooner. Whilst a lot of that seems to depend on genetics amongst other things, lifestyle has a lot to do with it as well. Eating well and exercise are all good for your skin. However I am not averse to a little assistance. I don’t mind admitting that I have had Botox on and off since my early 40’s. It’s nothing I’m ashamed of and as a woman it’s entirely my choice. Please don’t let anyone else make you feel bad about it, to be honest it says more about them than you, either that or they are peddling some miracle cream on a multi-level marketing scheme. I like my Botox, done correctly it enhances the way you look, done incorrectly and you look like a startled chipmunk in a wind tunnel, so be careful who you use!
That said, I haven’t had a Botox injection now for a very long time, I invested instead in a Galvanic Spa from Nu Skin (No, I’m not peddling multi-level marketing products) but it genuinely works and gives excellent results. Not cheap, but then it cost me about the same as a full face of Botox, so that’s how I justified it. And that gets me onto my next point. The length of time my beauty regimen takes! I used to be able to wash my face with some Boots facewash, slap a bit of cream on it and that was it. Now I need eye serums, face peels, mud masks, rejuvinating masks, my Galvanic Spa a couple of times a week, night cream, day cream, SPF30, eyelash growth serum, the list is seemingly endless and it probably takes me a good 15 minutes am and again pm to just prep my face. All of that said, I do see the benefits, and I am more than happy with how my skin looks without make-up. So much so I will often not wear any make-up during the day (I never would have done that at 30).
If there were ever a time to be an older woman, now is it. The advances in skin products is huge and the technology utilised is amazing, it puts your mothers cold cream to shame. On that point I would say that I have spent £1000’s on products and despite what Oil of Olay tell you, their products do not work anywhere near as well as some of those items you can only get online. I am a big Nu Skin fan, I’ve not seen benefits from everything they have, but a lot of their products pack a hefty punch. Their prices are in line with mid-range shops such as Neals Yard or L’Occitane (my next favourite).
Once upon a time, I would only epilate from my knee to my ankle and that was it. I have quite fine blonde body hair so I never needed to go any further. Over the age of forty you start to find stray hairs. I remember the first time I found a dark hair on my thigh, I thought it was a cat hair and tried to pluck it off, only to find out it was attached! horrified! I have blonde body hair I wailed…what the hell was this all about?…and what the hell was that hair doing ATTACHED to the back of my thigh???!?!?! needless to say I now have to epilate ALL of my legs, adding more time to my beauty regime.
As women we all know that the menopause is looming, reaching your late forties and early fifties you expect the hot flashes, the mood swings, missed periods, irregular periods and all that jazz. It’s such a slow and insidious process. For me it has started with the fact that my periods last for about…..ooooh a whole 2 days!? bonus really, less inconvenience I say, but that is just the beginning, time to start investing in Saw Palmetto. Which raises another annoyance, getting older is expensive! not only do I have to buy the creme dela creme of face products I also have to start investing heavily in supplements. If there is one thing you won’t find me doing it’s taking artificial hormones. Not only do I not tolerate them well, they are also increasingly linked to hormonal cancers. So nope, nope, nope, it’s shares in Holland and Barrett for me, in fact as time goes on it may actually be cost effective for me to quit my lucrative job as a surveyor and go work for them, just so I can take advantage of employee discounts.
Finally, for this post anyway, I have found out that my body does not bounce back the way it used to. I used to be able to work out hard, have a day of rest and then get back to it again. Now I need a couple of days between working out the same muscle group. I have also noticed that my skin does not bounce back the way it used to either, my neck can look crepey sometimes and all that sunbathing has taken its toll on my chest. My stomach, whilst still only 28 inches hangs like a little kangaroo pouch when performing downward dog, which is very distracting in yoga classes, and I’ve started to develop kninkles! Despite all this concerted effort at the gym and maintaining my 80/20 rule on my diet, gravity (that bitch) is beating me. I don’t think I will go as far as Demi Moore with her knee lift, mostly because I can’t afford the astronomical cost, but I will however try and stave it off a little longer with some deep ski squats (whilst saving up for the knee lift).
So there you go daughter of mine, with your 20 year old bouncy skin and wrinkle-less face, that’s what you have to look forward to in about 25 years time. Now go buy mummy an expensive face cream for her birthday…she needs it!